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Honour based violence

Has a member of your family been a victim of honour based violence?

The people who usually carry out honour based violence are family members or acquaintances who mistakenly believe someone has brought shame to their family or community by doing something that is not in keeping with the traditional beliefs of their culture. The victim is often a member of their own family.

If you think your brother or sister or another member of your family has been the victim of honour based violence, it can seriously affect both them and your family. You are probably also really scared, but you can help.

Give them support

They'll need to talk. But they may find it hard, especially where family loyalties are at stake, which is completely understandable. Just listen - it will help, especially as they will know you could be affected too.

Encourage them to talk to someone else about it. This can be very scary for them, so don't push too hard. But they should:

  • talk to their teacher or another responsible adult
  • if it's your brother or sister they can contact ChildLine to talk to a professional who can offer help and advice
  • talk in confidence to one of the organisations and charities listed on our ‘More help and advice’ page such as the HM Government Forced Marriage Unit on 020 7708 0151 or Southall Black Sisters on 0208 571 0800.

No matter how difficult it might seem, honour based violence must be reported to the police:

You can also talk to us yourself or ask someone else to speak to us on your behalf, like a friend or relative, a community leader or even a solicitor. You could even ask someone from your local authority, housing association or advice bureau to speak to us on behalf of you or your family member . The most important thing is that you speak to someone

Our Community Safety Units

The Metropolitan Police Service has made it a high priority to tackle honour based violence with special Community Safety Units located in each of our 32 boroughs. We will investigate all instances of honour based violence, even in cases where there is only a small amount of information or where a victim has not reported it themselves.

Getting more help

For more information about honour based violence visit our ‘Get the facts’ or ‘More help and advice’ pages.