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Domestic violence and abuse

Is a member of your family experiencing domestic violence and/or abuse?

The chances are if your brother, sister, mother or anyone else in your family is experiencing abuse, you are affected too. See our page called "Are you experiencing domestic violence and/or abuse?"

When someone you love is going through pain and distress it can be very hard to know what to do about it.

It's important that the person being abused knows:

  • it is not their fault
  • it should not carry on
  • there is help and support out there

When someone is abused, their behaviour can change.

Your brother, sister or another family member might:

  • be less talkative
  • seem depressed
  • get angry easily
  • feel bad about themselves - like they are not important or loved

It will help them to know that you are on their side:

  • be available to talk to
  • try to keep them cheerful
  • let them know that you are there to talk about it

What can you do?

Abuse is complicated and sometimes dangerous. The adults in your family might not even realise that you can hear what is going on.

If you can't talk to your parents:

  • talk to a teacher
  • talk to an adult you trust
  • talk to your Safer Schools Officer or local police
  • call ChildLine on 0800 1111 - it's free and available 24 hours a day

To report a crime visit the ‘Reporting crime’ section on the Metropolitan Police Service website or alternatively find out how to get touch with your local Community Safety Unit on the same site. You can also visit the ‘How to contact us’ page on this site.

Getting more help

To speak to someone in confidence about domestic violence and abuse, visit our ‘More help and advice’ page, or for more information visit ‘Get the facts’.