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Domestic violence and abuse

Is your friend experiencing domestic violence and/or abuse?

Has a friend of yours mentioned trouble at home or with a boyfriend or girlfriend?

It can be a real worry if you think they could be the victim of violence and abuse. But there's plenty you can do to help them.

Domestic abuse and violence can have a big effect on young people:

  • They might feel like it's somehow their fault.
  • They don't know how to react to it.
  • They might have been hurt.
  • They don't know how to make it stop.

What can you do?

It's not your responsibility to solve your friend's problems at home, but you can help.

  • Be a good friend to them.
  • Understand that they may be changing because they are going through a bad time at home.
  • Talk to them normally about everyday things.
  • Listen to what they are saying.
  • Make sure they know they can talk to you any time.

Talking to them

They may feel embarrassed to talk about what's going on at home. If you think they will become upset or angry don't push them to talk about it. But if they seem okay, encourage them to seek help from:

Tell someone yourself

If they won't talk to you or don't want to talk to an adult, then you could tell somebody yourself what you think is going on. The longer it carries on, the longer your friend could be suffering.

To report a crime visit the ‘Reporting crime’ section on the Metropolitan Police Service website or alternatively find out how to get touch with your local Community Safety Unit on the same site. You can also visit the ‘How to contact us’ page on this site.

Getting more help

To speak to someone in confidence about domestic violence and abuse, visit our ‘More help and advice’ page, or for more information visit ‘Get the facts’.

Domestic violence and abuse