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Domestic violence and abuse

Are you sometimes violent and/or abusive at home?

There are no excuses for violence but you're here because you know that what you're doing is wrong and that you want to stop. That's a good thing. There are people who can help.

There may be a lot of reasons that contribute to you being violent or abusive. Perhaps:

  • you are upset about something
  • you feel that you have no control over your life
  • you may be stressed
  • you have grown up around violence and abuse

The fact that you are reading this means that you know what you are doing is wrong.

  • Abuse, whether physical, mental or verbal, ruins lives.
  • You may be causing a lot of damage to your family.
  • It can be hard to stop unless you get some help.

You might feel embarrassed or ashamed about what you have done. However:

  • you cannot keep blaming other people
  • if you don't stop you may lose the people you love
  • you might never have a good relationship with another person unless you learn to change

What can you do?

The best thing to do is talk to someone about how you are feeling and why you are being abusive. It may be hard to talk to your family about it, if so:

  • talk to a teacher
  • tell a good friend
  • speak to your Safer Schools Officer
  • call someone who will be able to help - try ChildLine in confidence on 0800 1111
Domestic violence and abuse

Getting more help

To speak to someone in confidence about domestic violence and abuse, visit our ‘More help and advice’ page, or for more information visit ‘Get the facts’.