Have you been bullying someone?

Have you done something you're worried about? Maybe you've been pressured into doing something you knew wasn't right by your friends. Or maybe you've got into trouble at home or school because of it.

Taking responsibility and admitting you're a bully, even to yourself, is a big thing.

Taking steps to understand why and make sure that it doesn't happen again is the smart thing to do.

There could be lots of reasons you bully people, but none of them are excuses.

You might do it:

  • to feel like you have control over someone
  • to make your friends laugh
  • because you don't think there's anything wrong with it
  • to hide the fact that you feel insecure about something or that you think you'd be the one being bullied if you didn't do it to someone else

But think about how it might be affecting the person at the receiving end. They might feel:

  • upset or scared
  • that there's nothing anyone can do to help them
  • that if they do something about it things could get worse

The most important thing to do is to stop. Here are some things to consider:

  • Try to learn more about what you've been doing to get a better idea about how it can affect you and the people around you - take a look at our ‘More advice and advice’ page.
  • Talk to someone you can trust about it; it might be your parents or someone else at home, or perhaps even a teacher at school.
  • You could speak to a professional in confidence at ChildLine on 0800 1111 - you won't have to give your name so don't worry about owning up about what you've been doing; they won't judge you - they're just there to help.


ChildLine is the free helpline for children and young people in the UK. Children and young people can call 0800 1111 to talk about any problem.

Visit the ChildLine site here.

Need more help? Visit our ‘More help and advice’ page.