Getting pressure from your friends to be a bully?

If you're getting pressure from your friends to do something that you're not comfortable with or that you know isn't right - you're not alone. Everyone wants to fit in and be popular, but doing things that make you or other people around you feel upset or scared is wrong.

There are lots of reasons someone might be a bully, but none of them are excuses.

They might do it:

  • to feel like they have control over someone
  • to make their friends laugh
  • to hide the fact that they feel insecure about something or that they think they'd be the one being bullied if they didn't do it to someone else

But think about how it might be affecting the person at the receiving end. They might feel:

  • upset or scared
  • that there's nothing anyone can do to help them
  • that if they do something about it things might get worse

The most important thing to do is to not become a bully yourself. Here are some things to consider:

  • Try to learn more about bullying to get a better idea about how it can affect you and the people around you - take a look at our ‘More advice and info’ page.
  • Talk to someone you can trust about it; it might be your parents or someone else at home, or perhaps even a teacher at school.
  • You could speak to a professional in confidence at ChildLine on 0800 1111 - you won't have to give your name or even your friends' names so don't worry about owning up about what you or they have been doing; they won't judge you - they're just there to help.
  • You can also contact a specialist charity
  • You should also do what you can to stop your friend or friends being bullies; take a look at our page about ‘Are you worried your friend is a bully?’


ChildLine is the free helpline for children and young people in the UK. Children and young people can call 0800 1111 to talk about any problem.

Visit the ChildLine site here.

Need more help? Visit our ‘More help and advice’ page.