Domestic violence and abuse

Is a member of your family violent and/or abusive at home?

Any kind of abuse is upsetting and confusing.

If you are a victim of the abuse yourself, or if you can see or hear it happening, read our section called Are you experiencing domestic abuse?

If you suspect that somebody is being abused, it can be really worrying - and you should trust your instincts.

When someone you love is going through pain and distress it can be very hard to know what to do about it. Some important things to remember are:

  • what's happening is not your fault
  • it's not just down to you to solve the problem or to protect the person being abused
  • but there are other ways that you can help them

You might still love the person who is being abusive

That can be really hard. Maybe you don't want to tell someone because:

  • you'll be getting them into trouble
  • they're unhappy too
  • you are worried you will be in danger

Abuse is never the right thing. There are lots of people you can talk to.

What can you do?

The adults in your family might not even realise that you can hear or suspect what is going on. Let them know it is upsetting you and talk to them about it if you can.

If you can't talk to your parents:

  • talk to a teacher
  • talk to your Safer Schools Officer or local police
  • talk to an adult you trust
  • talk to a professional at ChildLine on 0800 1111 - it's free and available 24 hours a day

Is your sister or brother being forced to marry against their will?

If they are, get them to talk to someone or speak to someone yourself. You can also call our Forced Marriage Unit in confidence on 020 7008 0151.

Getting more help

To speak to someone in confidence about domestic violence and abuse, visit our ‘More help and advice’ page, or for more information visit ‘Get the facts’.